1 day ago
Saturday, July 14, 2012
So my anxieties kicked my butt royally this fourth of July. I'm still upset about it. I had really been doing pretty well. Camping, going to the store, travel ... it was all looking pretty good. I figured attending a fourth of July party wouldn't be too much to ask.
It doesn't seem like it should matter that much, but I was really upset. I had been planning to go for two weeks. I sent back a very enthusiastic 'yes' to the invitation. I was even thinking about what I wanted to chat about with the hostess, what to bring, and that I would certainly have fun. Their house isn't too far from the DC fireworks, so that was going to be an added bonus.
But it didn't happen. For three nights leading up to the fourth, I didn't sleep. I didn't know what was bothering me, which is crazy in retrospect. I was obviously totally stressed out about this party. Going into DC on the fourth is a bit nutso, anyway, what with the crowds, the Metro breaking down, no parking, hours in stop and go traffic, etc. etc. That is on top of the usual party stresses, like not knowing anyone and not being able to eat any of the food because of OCD issues. Still, I didn't realize I was totally freaking out until that morning.
I got up on the fourth and was terrified. I couldn't beat the feeling. I tried a bunch of my different coping mechanisms, but kept finding myself back up in bed, shivering. Scared. Feeling very trapped. Took me a few hours to admit the situation and leave a message that I wouldn't be coming to the party after all. It really, really hurt. I spent the afternoon in tears. It is so different from that depression thing, where you don't want to go anywhere. My depression is under control right now. I wanted to go. It was all of the anxiety disorders that stopped me this time. So frustrating. I don't know how to describe it, but I'll bet you understand.
My spouse was very supportive, as always. He was disappointed that we didn't go to the party, but he went out and got us some beer, hot dogs, chips, and ice cream so we could have our own little party. Then we watched the fireworks online. I love fireworks. I hope I can see them in person next year. Seeing them online when you'd rather be out is a little pathetic.
Still, I don't want to end on a downer, because a few days later I had a much more positive experience. My spouse is a huge baseball fan, and does not get to go to as many games as he'd like because I have anxiety issues with the crowds, the food, the dirt and grime, and all the rest. But a friend had invited us along with a small group to a box suite. Wow. Never been in one of those boxes before. Wow. The idea of being able to see a game in a sort of nice, isolated situation had a lot of appeal.
So we went out to the game. Still had to deal with the crowds getting in, but once we were in the box. Well. Wow. Air conditioning. Our own area for concessions. The place is carpeted. Our own set of seats outside, with a railing to set them off. Right behind home plate. Our own bathroom!! I'll say that again ... our own bathroom!! It was truly awesome.
I am now spoiled for life. I'll probably not get the chance again, and any other game I attend will just not compare. I'd never imagined that going to a baseball game could be so low-anxiety. It felt so good to be able to get out and see some friends after my disappointment two days earlier. I wonder if I'll ever be able to make myself deal with being one of the normals again. Wow.
Anyway, I hope your fourth, and this first part of July have been treating you well!
Your Hostess With Neuroses
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